reflections on our first year of marriage

Earlier this month Dale and I celebrated our one year anniversary. On November 11, 2016 we were sealed for time and all eternity in the Albuquerque LDS temple. Our wedding day was the happiest day of my life to this point. I know that's cliche but it's true. 

I will never forget how I felt kneeling across the altar from Dale as we made sacred covenants and promises that united us together as husband and wife. It was a long, a times very difficult path to reach that altar. Our journey wasn't without mistakes, bumps, and challenges, but together we made the commitment and sacrifices necessary to be married in the temple. 

As we've returned to the temple almost every month this year to participate in temple work, each time I'm reminded at how truly blessed I am to be sealed to such a wonderful man and to be a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I'm grateful that we are united together in living the gospel and always striving to do what is best for our blended family. 

Dale and I often say that we feel like we've been married for years (and we mean that in a good way). Sometimes it's hard to believe we've only been in each other's lives for nearly three years total. I guess that's what happens when you find the right person and you choose to spend eternity with each other. We also like to joke that eternity is a long time--it's a good thing we like and love each other. 

Throughout this first year of marriage I've learned a lot of things, especially about myself. I've learned that it's ok for me to need some alone time and to communicate that need to my partner. 

I've discovered that it takes time to adjust to making joint decisions. I was single for almost a decade and lived alone for several years too, so making solo decisions became my norm. Being married totally changes that dynamic. 

I've found that saying "please" and "thank you" go a long way in a relationship. It really is the little things everyday that add up to make a difference, good or bad. 

It's important to understand how your partner communicates and to work together to find common ground when you don't agree about something. Also, it's ok to disagree. Talk it out and eventually you'll come to a viable solution you both can live with. 

Ultimately, I've learned there is great strength and power in unconditional love. Dale makes me a better woman. With him by my side, I am sustained and comforted in a way I never experienced until marriage. 

My heart is more open than it has ever been. My love is deeper and at times so is my sorrow. The love I feel for my husband and stepsons is overpowering. Our marriage and family unit are the most important things in my life.  

Alright, I could go on and on but I'll stop there before I completely run away with my feelings all together. But know this---our first year of marriage was incredible. Marriage is amazing. It is the greatest blessing in my life. 

And because I can't resist, here are a few more pictures from our beautiful wedding day.  

Photos by Kayla Kitts Photography